Notes From the Field
"Deep Dark Secret" Adamantly Nixed
In last month's Latelies, we told you about the Denver journalist who asked us to confess to the "deep dark secret" about book groups: "They're all women and none of them read the book." We received almost 30 replies to put this myth to rest. Here are some excerpts:
- "What??
Nonsense! Our book club -- Booklover's Ink, founded by yours truly -- is democratically made up of members of both sexes. We have provocative discussions enlightened by various viewpoints. We shun bestsellers and favor classics: works by French, Irish, Canadian and English writers -- we return repeatedly to Nabokov, Ishiguro, Falkner, Balzac, etc -- learning about the art of the novel now for over seven years. We are interested in regional voices, award winners, Native American writers, Colorado authors and more. Our male members are doctors, lawyers, restauranteurs, media people -- the works. Whoever so blithely panned book clubs as women's clubs is generalizing. Ours as been hetero from the beginning and will always be so.
We also have a gifted, brilliant mentor who is a true classicist, send a monthly newsletter with news of what transpired and who thought what, and include brilliantly researched discussion questions mailed out ahead of each read. This happens 10 months a year. I cherish this responsibilty (I love writing these -- they are often quite fun and an exercise in summary skills) and enjoy rereading the old newsletters and question sheets. We have a perspective on reading that few college survey courses could give.
Bah-humbug to whomever you were questioning! He should be forced to read Grisham for an entire month as punishment. Or join our book club -- he doesn't know what he's missing!"
--Corinne Joy Brown
- "Our book group really enjoys reading the books we select for each month. Everyone in my household knows that book group is a very important evening for me and they know the amount of work I put in to get ready for the discussion. I cannot answer for all groups, but as far as our group (which has met for 3 1/2 years) is concerned, we read the books."
--Corinne Stahl
- "For those not in a book group, book club is just an excuse to get together,
drink wine, and gossip. Anyone in a group knows that it's so much more. The first question that someone in another group will ask you is 'What are you reading?' The next is, 'Did you like Book X? What did you think about Books W, Y, or Z?' They may make a recommendation for your club, and they will jump right into discussing an author or book if you have one in common. After five years with a group, I am truly amazed at what incredibly busy women are reading and the research and depth they bring to a discussion about a new novel."
--Leigh Grimstead
- "True, our book group is all women. But we usually have all read the
book and discuss it either with a study guide or with our own thoughts and
questions. We discuss some pretty 'heavy-duty' issues -- yes, we do also share
lots of laughter and 'gossip,' but it's not the bulk of the evening. My
friends and co-workers ask about the book group, and all who ask like the
fact that we DO read the books and choose a variety of books to discuss. Men
are welcome in our group; we just don't have any interested, apparently. We
hold our group in a small-town public library and advertise on the bulletin
board so it's open to all. Many people I talk to read books but don't want
to commit the time to come to another 'meeting,' or to feel the pressure to
read in a certain time frame. It's hard but rewarding work."
--Sally Harms
- "Not read the book!? Not a chance. Almost without exception we all read the book. However, if we found it dull and lacking in discussion matter, we feel no qualms about turning the evening into a social one rather than intellectual. Of course, all of our husbands 'jokingly' say the focus of our group is to drink good wine."
--Joyce De Kock
Thank you kindly, Ladies! We're still waiting to hear from the book group men out there, and we know you are out there -- we meet you in groups and talk to you on the phone about reading choices almost every day. So if any men, or women, want to address the question "Why do you think the majority of book group members are female?" please use the form below to write in and give us your two to two hundred cents.
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